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Are You Worth It?

Regina Devers

2 min read

Apr 19

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Perhaps around age 25, young women begin to understand their worth. A healthy parenting or co-parenting environment may render the age to be a little earlier than that. I can recall the moment I was born into the reality of my worth. It was right around my 30th birthday. I had the familiarity of the different forms of relationships -- family, friends, work, church, and school. All seemed to be going well with communication in each category until I began to speak up and show up for myself. And guess when that was! I was 30 years old coming into my own, mind you I had been on my own for over a decade at that point. I relocated to North Carolina a few years prior and it was an eye-opener in the areas that I thought I grew and matured in. During this time I found that being decisive and "standing on business" was not a welcomed trait, but instead a means of being mean and aggressive. Perhaps my tone was a bit much at times because I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. Well, fortunately (for me), I stood my ground and did not allow the thoughts of others, whether solid or imaginary, to prevent me from communicating my thoughts and, or feelings. I bring this very segmented story to you to consider the cost of being a people pleaser. While certain responsibilities come with having a family and a job, attending church, and going to school; there is still a need for boundaries. Boundaries have to deal with who you are as an individual. The boundaries that a person establishes are not up for debate, revision, or scrutiny - unless they choose to do so. So I ask you today to consider your worth. Consider how you show up for yourself. Consider the way you handle your self-respect, self-care, and self-love. No relationship is worth losing yourself. Are you worth it?

Regina Devers

2 min read

Apr 19

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